Thanks for everyone's support.

I sent my L h's note today and he responded within minutes - "We need to get to mediation quickly".

It's going to be in about 3 weeks. They're booked - so many people going through the same damn thing.

But he also said it would be ok to meet with H if I wanted to "see where he's going with this".

I don't know. I set a pretty firm boundary last month when he asked to meet - I do not want to see you anymore if you're still involved with someone else. He's definitely still involved with OW. Would it show inconsistency if I broke it and agreed to meet with him?


Me 56
H 47
Married 21 years
No children
Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself".
Ow Bomb 8/07
H filed 6/08
D final 2/05/10