so today when I leave for work I say bye and she does not even look at me when she says bye. But as I was sitting in my truck listening to some preaching and getting ready to drive home from work she text me to tell me she was getting her hair cut and was picking up dinner for me. Go figure. It was a good evening.
It's like I said before noedphi, don't expect everything to be a horrible experience. She may surprise you every now & then with an act of kindness, don't make a big deal out of it, if she wants to invest a small amount of time, money, effort, etc. into you, just say thank you without being overly appreciative. It's good that she invests a little bit in you, let her. When we invest resources into things (time, money, effort, all of the above), we tend to like those things more, want those things more, continue to invest more resources into those things.
If she talks more, just listen to her. No arguing, validate what she says and see it from her point of view, regardless of your logic (remember men's logic and women's emotions don't usually jive) just don't let her be abusive of you in which case don't reward her actions with your attentions - just remove yourself from the situation.
But I would say picking up dinner for you is a nice gesture so look at it that way and just say thank you with a warm smile and eat your dinner.
Don't pursue her or start conversation, allow her to do that and you just listen and respond.
How is getting a life working for you? What have you been doing to get your mind off this stuff?
