Got it. OK I think that I will hold off on telling him to go be with OW. My H and I are already S, but we do talk from time to time. I probably will try though to do some sort of 180 where I am not trying verbally to get him to move back. I don't pursue him, but DB had me thinking today that I should do something else, a "trial and error" per se and "encourage" H to stay separated, i.e tell him how nice its been to have time to myself etc.
