You know, sometimes I get so mad at myself for putting up with everything for so damned long. I mean, clearly this man has no moral courage. No morals period. We have completely different viewpoints on life. Two seperate sets of values and if I had met his family before I married him, there would not have been a marriage-period.
His father is a mysoginistic, narcassitic a$$hole who lives his life vicariously through his sons, which he calls his "studs"-disgusting, I know.
His mother is an enabling coddler that has never held her son to any standard of decency. She lost custody of him when he was 5 (due to her boyfriend, later husband, who beat the mess out of stbx. She chose the MAN over her SON because her self esteem is so low, she could not be without the guy-note-the guy eventually left her for someone younger and now has small children with his newer wife) and cannot live down the guilt, therefore she overly praises stbx and tells him to do whatever makes him happy-to include abandoning his family and that even though he threw away his family and his career, due to his bad behavior, that he has displayed nothing but disdain for her, she still lavishes him with praise and gives him money and gifts.
His father really takes the cake though. I really despise this guy and I have tried so hard to get along with him, but he tries to cut me every chance he gets and he and the other son always make some reference to my ethnicity. Stbx's brother actually called my son a half breed (I am half asisan). Father and brother actually knew about OW 4 years ago and were "high-fiving" stbx on landing another woman who was willing to lavish gifts on him and give him so much money.
My son will be spending 2 weeks in hawaii with these types of people. How could I have been so blind to have married into a family like this. How could I not have seen that stbx was just like his family. I thought he was special and different. I thought he would be the one to rise above...
