Lady!....Good for you for standing your ground. We all know that you deserve better treatment.
Don't feel bad for OW. Stop and think about how she got into this. She left her H and made plans of being with your H even before your H left you. She, and she only put herself in this situation. Yes, she's in it with your H, but SHE put herself in this, not you. She KNEW what she was doing and the risks she was taking by getting involved with her boss. I'd say that nearly ALL of our spouses are telling lies to us and to the OP's. She's no victim here.
I agree....don't get rid of the pets. If you DD20 has a dog at your H's house now, why is he so set on them having to be gone for him to come back? I don't get that reasoning.
I know that your pc hasn't been working lately, but check for an email, okay. No worries about having to respond.
You're doing great! Take care-
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day