Maybe you could begin a thread in the MLC forum with a title that would let guys know that you're offering insight and asking for insight too. Like: " I'm a WAW Who Wants To Go Home" or something along those lines.
I think you probably have a great deal to offer them and they to offer you.
And JMHO, but I think it is a good idea for you to initiate a lunch date, or any casual date with XH. And DON'T make it for the purpose of a R talk, make it a "get to know each other again" kind of day. You may have a long way to go to rebuild trust and a friendship before reconciliation is even a realistic issue for you to deal with.
You can't expect your XH to welcome you into his arms when you're still with OM. You can't continue to have sex with OM either. You're not a child, you have the freedom to choose to be responsible for your own actions. Your XH is not going to be a "soft landing" for you to escape your current relationship, unfortunately, you burned that bridge when you chose OM over XH.
And like another poster said, no matter what happens YOUR daughter wins if you and H can be true co-parents no matter what. T2
