You very well may be right Stillhope but, if as you say, it sounds like he is done and has moved on, why was I the one who had to end the marriage? Why did he keep telling me that he wanted to be married to me while he was cheating with an OW as well as lapdancers? Why the non-stop lies, both before the separation and after?
From what I have read the MLCer frequently comes out of the "fog" and regrets what they have left behind. I guess I am having a hard time accepting that he has just shut the door to his past to easily.
When we talked about divorce in Jan08, I had every reason to believe that we would split amiably and with as little hurt to each other as possible. That is the person I married -- not this person who as inflicted as much pain and confusion as possible onto the person he loved.
