Thanks guys. Its good that I have you all to share with first b/c believe me, I can go off on a tangent and then realize in hindsight that it not good.
BTW, where I came up with this is that from what I read in DB, Michele talked about a wife whose H stays out late all time (like my H) and W always argued with him and then Michele advised her to encourage him to go out with his friends. Tell him that she has other plans and to actually GAL. To basically change the game/the cycle, and then her H actually change his habits. I know with my H this has totally been the case, with OW and other things. I find that once I push issues with OW he would then defend her, once I say positive things like about him being there for his son, he says something like he's very bad or something not so positive. Or once I argue, or pursue, he retracts on his position. So I thought about giving this one a try. I even remember Michele saying that for example, to help a depressed person, one should try not being too upbeat. Not trying to cheer him/her up. Give in to their depression.
Truth of the matter even if I tell him that go be with OW if he wants to won't he continue to. Would I be losing anything if I try something new?
