This highlights again how careful you need to be when choosing a counselor. My sister (whose job is to help families with difficult children) recommended I look for a counselor that practices Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT). I believe that's the method that MWD practices also (this was before I learned about DB). I found a counselor about 1.5 hours from us that specializes in marriage problems AND practices that method. Then I emailed her and described our issues and asked how she thought she could help. Convinced by her answer, we went to see her and I think she's great and well worth the drive!
Bottomline: Do your research beforehand! A counselor could move your sitch in any direction, you want to make sure it will move in the way you want it to.
