I am right down the road from Wilmington (45 mins) and often think about moving there myself! I will hold you to that beer and shot, woman!
I know that yor sitch has been tough, but I think that you are doing really well and give it a little more time to get to the intimacy. I have the opposite problem, I know stbx would love to have the sex, without the "friendship".
Oh well-you are right, definite pain in the a$$ is right. Stbx txted me AGAIN today to ask me to come over tonight. I gave him the same reply as usual. Looks like I will be spending part of the day with him tomorrow for S's birthday.
I am a little pissed off right now though because he also let me know he will be taking S to Hawaii this summer for about 2 weeks. His sister is marrying this dirtbag. He was my friend's hubby-yes, they had an affair, he left his wife and child for my sister-in-law, stbx knew and helped facilitate the affair(ANOTHER reason to let my dirtbag go) and now everyone in his family acts like it is such a great thing that sister-in-law found this great guy. No mention about how she pretended to be friends with his wife while sleeping with her hubby and no mention that he signed away his parental rights to his son in an effort to avoid paying child support so that he can pay for her materialistic, vain and dumb ass.
I do not want my son around these people. But I cannot control what stbx does when he has visitation. It just makes me furious to think of it all.
I really wish he could leave me alone. Any insight into why he is suddenly pushing for all of this time? I want to be able to let go and have a working relationship with him. Do you think if I keep gently turning him down for requests to spend time he will eventually stop? Or do you think he will just feel rejected and resort to his usual mind games?
