36 today, this may just be MY year !

[tpaschal]

Cinders,

Good for you! It sounds like you handled the situation perfectly, and what a nice guy he really is to respond in such a kind and respectful way.

Maybe the two of you wouldn't be compatible in a relationship, but maybe this guy really can be just a friend. I think it's great to have one or two guy friends who can give you a male perspective on some things---like flirting and dating and relationships!

I know exactly how you feel about being afraid of getting hurt, or being afraid of hurting someone else by leading them on when I know I'm not really ready to be in a relationship. I guess most of us here have similar fears.

And I know what you mean about the one night stand! It's been along dry spell--LOL! But even more than sex, I miss the kissing and the cuddling and just knowing someone that comes with being in a relationship. Sometimes I miss that so much that I think, "Why not find someone new? Ex doesn't want me, our marriage is over, and he's moved on, so why shouldn't I?"

But I know that it has to be about ME, not about exH, and I know my feelings and my heart are not healed enough yet to be ready for a new relationship. Flirting? Heck, yes! Casual dating? Maybe someday soon. But a boyfriend? No way!!!

I know I have to trust God to let me know when the time is right....

It's so great to come here and chat with people who are in the same boat!