Still, all I can do is hope, and to pray to God that she won't do such a thing, to embarrass the father of her own children like that, right in front of them. Should I dare ask her? Would that do me any good?
I think you should. The worst that can happen is that she won't give you an answer, but if you stress your worry for your children perhaps she will. At least you will have done what you can. And if she does go the Sheriff route, hopefully she will tell you then. Having kids I would never do that myself, but who knows???
I think you should try to hold firm to the 50/50. Don't argue with her about it, but if she tries to get you to change that maybe start forwarding those emails to your L. Let your L deal with that. If you keep up the 50/50 I don't think any judge would change that. Karen