I know what to do. Just need the support.

[noedphi]

"If our marriage ends this way -- with you having an affair, lying about it, and refusing to work whatsoever on our marriage and our issues -- then I have absolutely ZERO INTEREST in being your friend once we're divorced. I'll be civil, and courteous, and we'll work together as good co-parents for the sake of the kids, but I have NO interest in being your friend, much less your BEST friend."

I actually DO feel this way. This will probably be said soon. Not sure exactly when. But due to finances I will have to wait until we move. And that looks to be soon.