However, if I were the one having the affair, and I were exposed, and humiliated, I would never go back to the marriage.
Personally, I would return to the marriage in spite of being exposed, humiliated and even treated poorly. (There is no way on this earth I would ever choose to be a part-time mom!). If I did something wrong I would figure I deserved to feel humiliation and I would expect my spouse to be angry and sometimes treat me poorly because of pain, fear and distrust. Sometimes I think we NEED to feel guilty, humiliated, and bad about a choice because that's how we learn something IS wrong and that we shouldn't make certain choices.
For me, I'm strong enough to "man up" to the mistakes I make, admit I was an idiot and try to make up and repair things as, best as possible. But I realize it can't be easy, and not everyone has the strength or ability to deal with those feelings.
Personally, I am a big believer in exposing lies and deceit, and I've never regretted that. However, I know there are always possible consequences and if one does choose to expose things they need to be prepared to accept and deal with that.
Originally Posted By: sgctxok
It does work for some ... like puppy and saffie....
And me too. You can add me to that list.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
