Yoyo's Playhouse

[Yoyowife]

Hi Everyone,
I'm going to attempt to reply to your thoughts and offer more information. My computer is still acting up so I hope I don't lose all of this! I will copy, just to be on the safe side!

Didi, I need to fill in a few blanks for you. We own a business. I do not work there physically. I have a career as an educator. It is a corporation and I own 49% of it. The OW is his secretary.

Here is information to catch everyone else up to speed.

H had been telling me that he was no longer seeing OW outside of work. Friday night we went to ballgame together to watch DD cheer. After we got back to town he got called out on an emergency. He told me that we would do something Sat. night.

Sat. I talked him around 6:00 pm and he was still working and would call me back. I waited a couple of hours and never heard from him. I decided to drive to his house. When I got there OW's car was there. I decided to confront them both, I had endured enough of the lies.

I must admit I went in the house very angry and emotional. H and I got in a very heated conversation. I told him that I was tired of his lies. I told everything in front of OW how he had been lying saying they weren't seeing each other and that's why I continued to see him. He tried to say I was lying. I gave her dates and times. He walked out of the room. She told me "I know he is lying. I knew something was up, just didn't know what. That's why I came over here."

He got very angry and said some very hurtful things. He said he was with the OW. He kept telling me to leave, but I told him I would not leave until he admitted to his lies. He finally did. He apologized to both of us for all of the lies and knew he had hurt both of us very badly. I then walked out. I came to realize that OW was victim too. He had lied to her also.

He of course called the next day on Sunday. He tried to act like nothing ever happened. I told him I could not believe he had the nerve to call me after the things he had said and done to me. He said, "I am so sorry, but you just kept pushing my buttons." I asked him if he was really in love with the OW. He said, "No, I just said that because I knew that was what you wanted to hear." I told him that I did not want to talk to him because he was not the man I had married.

Monday night he called again. He kept apologizing and telling me how wrong he was. I was very cold to him. He asked me to please to come to his house to talk. I went to his house. After I had been there about an hour we heard a knock at the door. He went in the other room to see who it was. I didn't hear the door open so I went to invesitgate. I looked out the window and saw the OW's car. I walked in the other room and then I heard the door open. I went back in there and she had come in the house. I asked her how she got in. She said it was unlocked. She asked where he was. I told him he needed to come in the room. He walked in. He tried to get rude with her. I told him not to start that. She said,"Oh you are going to treat me like you treated her now"? She asked him if he had made a decision. He said, "Yes, we are over",looking directly at her. She then asked if she had still had a job. I looked at him. I said, "It will be too hurtful to all 3 of us for you to work with him." She said, "You don't have to worry about me, I know he is a liar."

We are still at an impasse. He doesn't want to fire her because he feels bad for her because she is supporting two children with one of them being in college. I hate to say it but in a way I do feel badly for her because of all the lies he told her too. I understand that how hard it would be for her to get another job. He still says that the pets, that the girls love so much, must go for him to come home. It seems to me he doesn't want to give, but expects a lot out of me and the girls.

At this time, divorce is seeming to be the only way to resolve things.

Is this crazy or what? You don't have to watch soap operas, just come to my thread!