of course you're confused...of course he's confused...
keep in mind you left him...this return is by your intitiation no?
he may be having dd invite you so that he doesn't have to feel rejected if you say no.
he may just want to do family things together to regain a comfort level with you...being with the family is safe.
for now I would just sit back and accept that both ex and dd are inviting you...go when you can...if you are waiting for h to invite you alone to do something...I'd play along with things the way they are for now and eventually test the waters by asking him out alone to a movie..if by chance he assumes the invite is for dd too...you can accept that or simply say "it would be nice to spend some time alone with you...how about dinner or a movie"
it all takes time....the pieces of the puzzle have been strewn about...you'll find them with patience and determination.
