Gosh, I was so glad to see your post. Thank you for writing back. I was so hopeful when I saw this thread had gone off the radar screen because if you ever get a chance to read some of my old threads, I've been beaten up by some of the members here, and I'm very much afraid to post. It was nice when nobody saw my name up there in the posting section. Do you know how that happened? Can we get it back that way?
Anyway, I originally came to this thread to talk to Laurie, but I don't think she posts here anymore. Then I met you, and I love the way you handled your H.
I don't talk to my H anymore unless I call him, and that's usually only once or twice a month. We've been separated since May. We both have attys but I'm thinking strongly about dropping mine soon because she's charged me over $3,000 dollars so far and H hasn't even filed for D yet. He did send his FA last week, and I'm going to see my Atty today to talk about his and mine.
I'm afraid. I really don't know how to proceed from here. What I mean is, I don't know what to do to DB. I know slowing down the process is the way to go, but I'm not sure how to do that anymore since the FA's are about to go into play. I think H wants a "settlement conference" but he cancelled that meeting three weeks ago so his atty could make major (and I mean major) changes to his FA.
He now claims to only make 2/3 of what he made in 2007. I guess that means I won't be getting any alimony unless I get laid off, which is also a very good possibility. I'm thinking of asking to be laid off now too.
He wants the house, says I "don't deserve it." He's been pretty nasty through this whole thing, but then again, he probably claims the same thing about me.
OH, I've got to go get ready to leave.
BTW, I do love my H .... alot, but I think I fell in love with a different man. Monday is my birthday. When I called him on Monday, after an awful weekend when he wouldn't even answer the phone, I asked him if he was going to ignore again this birthday weekend, and he said, "I might." That was mean, and it hurt me terrible. I then asked him if he's seeing anyone and he said "No, I have to go now. Goodbye." And then he hung up on me. (Par for the course). He always hurts me and says he's not being cruel to me, that he's just not going to be talking to me all the time. I think he refuesed to talk to me this weekend for two reasons. He was talking to her (OW) and because it was Valentine's Day and he wanted to drive home the point.
I think he wants the house, which I'm living in and he's paying the utility bills for. I think he's doing that on purpose so the judge sees him as the paying owner and not me.
Anyway, just rambling now. It has been very hard for me to write though. So, this -- today -- is really good!
