I have been really searching through my feelings lately - trying to get some discernment as to where I want to go.
W and I had gone to a single MC session, and the counselor told her that if she didn't deal with the issues of abuse in her past, we probably wouldn't get very far with MC.
Long story short - I found out the my mortal mistake. Going to a counselor that didn't believe in marriage. She was actually a trauma/abuse counselor not a marriage counselor, and her solution for W was to "embrace her feelings and leave."
She even insisted that she would NOT counsel us as a couple. This statement came even though she had not spoken to me at all other than the introductory visit.
So, what was funny was that she referred W to, get this: a domestic violence support group! (W had told her I was emotionally and verbally abusive)
Just on a whim - I was looking at the support group's website, and they had a list of 20 or so signs of emotional and verbal abuse.
Being COMPLETELY honest with myself, I fit two or three of them.
