BG-what did the doctor say? Are you still hurting from the test? Our friend in Ks got back to me and said emailed you. I hope so. We may all be virtual but we are just as good as RL friends you know. Distance is the only obstacle.
I have to say I agree with Sandi and SC but you already know that. He has to deal with this and yes I do believe when the crap hit the fan and the worlds collided he didn't know how to handle it. Yes I think all this time he has been telling her whatever he could to keep her happy and quiet, as much as that didn't work, and now he doesn't know how to do it for you both or for him. You also know I don't believe this is about her as much as the child and that he has to figure that out. Just give him the time to deal with this and take this time to find your strength, which you already know you have. I'll talk to you today. We have to start getting you together and back to Traci. Whether he comes home in the future or not.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
morning all. it is so cold here this morning, it was in the teens, and I didnt get the stove going last nite before i fell asleep. Sandi, my pain was from the test, it gave me awful intestinal cramping. altho today my body feels like it was hit with a semi, so my lupus is probably flaring some too. hopefully today will be better. thank you all for your love and support
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
I'm crying with you, baby. I don't know how the man can do that to you when he knows what you are going through.
okay, this is not meant to be harsh, but remember, B is not wanting H to stay because she is sick. that is why she didn't want to tell him the results of the latest tests. Right now, he obviously doesn't know what he wants, and although it is a mean thing to just leave... especially if he said he was buying her something and never brought anything back... but she wants him to be truthful.
now this doesn't mean that 3 months down the road he realizes what a stupid mistake he's making and comes back knocking on her door, but this is what B asked of him.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I understand and I know BG does also. I think I was saying that more for the benefit of others that may read it. My H has to deal with our two diababled children (one of who is in constant terrible pain) and then come home to me with my problems. I can tell it gets him down, but at times I think people kind of get use to it in order to be able to do what they do....if that makes any sense. I know Baby doesn't want him to stay out of pity or anyother reasons except for the "right ones". I think all of us are wanting to help her so much and feel so helpless that I, for one, usually end up saying the wrong thing or something stupid, but I think she knew what I mean, at least I hope so. Thanks for pointing that out.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
this test yesterday was a retest from one a few years ago, the nickname i give it is to harsh to put on the boards. H was aware of it, and knew it was yesterday, and i had put it off so long, he assured me we would do it together. even trying to sedate me some thru it didnt work. its an awful one.
ok so, D16 hasnt been in class all day she has been in with the school counselor. she is a disastor, she did stay here last nite with her bff. but man some of the things she said.......He wants me to call H and let him know about it. she is not in a good place, i dont know if i should call him and tell him or not!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
jeff, the school counselor. davids wife, he wants me to try first to talk to him. to give him the opp to open up with D as she said to the C do not talk to him, meaning H. the C thinks i should do it first, do to the sitch, and THEN when or if H wants to doubt, they can talk, in his opinion, that is the best way, D and I tried, he doesnt want to listen the C will tell him, THEN we dont look stupid H does, if that makes any sense. in a weird way, it is almost a test.
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
BG- I want to start with just tell him. You already know what i'm thinking.
As far as the test, OMG if you people had any idea what it was and what it was like for her. As much as she is trying not to tell him about stuff cuz we don't want him hanging around cuz she's sick, I too have lived that drama, this was not something that even the Devil should have had to do alone. So Sandi you are right to be upset with her H and don't apologize for it and ST you are also right that she needs to keep some stuff to herself so he does't stay for the wrong reason.
Ok thats my soapbox for the day. Jeff, don't worry about being confused. Sometimes piecing is necessary. LOL
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
