Maybe I should be in piecing part 6?

[Hope4us]

You guys are good.

Don't worry. I've been thinking of what I'm going to say to her and that's part of it. That I feel like we're making progress, but it is all one sided and if I don't get what I need out of our marriage also, I'm not sure how long I can continue.

I'm sure you're right. I'm sure she thinks she's making this huge effort and I should just be happy that she's still here. Don't get me wrong. I do see her trying. I really do. But she's trying in a way that gives her what she needs and doesn't take into account ANYTHING I need.

And from her perspective, I can see why she's being like this. She's willing to try with us, but if it doesn't work, she doesn't want to give up on those feelings she got from the A (and the A memomento's also). She thinks (and yes she's said this), if we're meant to be together, those things won't matter. So in her mind, I should just be ok with her keeping things that remind her of her A. Guess that's where I blew it last year when she came to me and said she would stick around to see if we could make it work. I should have set the boundary then. If she wouldn't abide by that boundary, I'd be on my own now and done with the limbo land I live in.

Lesson learned.

don't worry guys. I'm not going to just hammer her. It'll be well thought out. But I appreciate the suggestion.