All that you can do is be totally upfront and honest with any of the women that you meet. Explain to them, well before things have a chance to get serious, exactly where you are, how you are feeling, and what you are looking for at this time in your life. If you will do this then you'll be covered. For women who are wanting more, it might run them off. You might discover some women who are wanting the same thing. If you explain this and someone still "falls for you" and expects more, you are covered, and it is their own fault.
If you recognize up front that someone might want more than a "friendship" then perhaps it would be best to steer clear of them. Especially as a candidate for your first relationship out of the gates. If you think she is someone you MIGHT want to have a relationship with in the future, but know that you don't want it NOW, then you don't want to mess up anything. Just stay friends with her and find someone else to practice on.
Bottom line is that you cannot put off dating/meeting people for fear of hurting someone because you don't want a relationship. For me, this has been one of my single biggest issues since my D was final. I have known that I don't want a serious relationship and I have been very honest & upfront with the women that I have met. To date I've not made enemies of any of them, so I'm thinking that I've done a good job handling it.
You need to get off the sidelines and get back in the game!
