I just wanted to jump in on the issue of glasses for your d. If she hasn't seen a pediatric opthamologist already, you may want to do that before committing to glasses. I have heard that optomotrists (sp?) are more likely to prescribe glasses at an earlier stage than an opthamologist. My son has been going to a ped. opthamologist annually for a few years and she's told us to wait on getting him glasses. His eyesight isn't very good, but I've passed that on to his teacher so his desk is close to the front of the classroom. I'm thinking that he will probably get glasses this year. He's 9.
On the Dan front, I think you have the right idea and DBing is the way to go for your sitch. Let him take his time (within reason) to figure out what he wants his life to look like.
