Little turn of events, W in response to my phone call of general chit chat (really me avoiding potential land mines which she has laid) has called back and said we need to talk. Sounds ommernous (sp?).
So I guess from my point of view it is to listen & validate but I still want to get a couple of points across. ie a week of silence doesn't work plus, telling me to f**k off shows a lack of respect.
Following along...still admiring your patience. Just a quick good luck with the talk....wonder what would happen if you dropped a few f bombs ...while validating.
Anyhow, this "we need to talk" brought back some bad memories. Not neccesarilly for what was discussed but the waiting part always seemed to stress me out a little. You seem to have it under control though.
I too disliked the "we need to talk" mystery wait.
When the talk happens, remember to express but dont defend your feelings. And try to avoid the talk getting into an argument. Even if you win an argument with a woman, you still lose.
I get the feeling that you are going into the talk with an "I have nothing to lose" attitude as maybe the resentment/anger of your W is wearing on you.
BTW... I think the word you were looking for is "ominous".
It's still early over here, we need to talk wasn't much of a talk. W outlined why she hasn't spoken to me for a week, a really trivial matter (IMO). These are just the high points but you'll get the jist of things. Last Thursday I got home late (7.30pm) which made W late for her gym class which starts at 7.30pm. When I asked why she let it fester for so long she said thats how she felt and it was up to me to explain my actions. I have to say that she didn't give me a chance on the night to explain as she went off in a huff and wouldn't speak to me the next day, but she said that was no excuse.
Then that led to Saturday when W said a couple of words to me in a really off tone and I accused her of trying to cause an argument for no reason thats when she told me to F**K off. When I said thats no way to talk to anyone she said she told me to F**K off because I was annoying her, and if we were in the same position now she'd tell me to F**K off again. At that point I stopped taking part in the conversation.
A very, very childish response from W, a very unsatisfactory end to the conversation.
Did you get the book? I have this...hope, that it may help you in some ways. Your wife sounds "aggresive" and ready to pick a fight but somehow I feel she would love to be guided by you in other directions. In my mind I have no doubt she loves you and secretly thanks God you are her H and that you didnt bail out when she went crazy. Women do seem complicated when you are trying to understand them by their recations. When you know where the reactions come form, I believe women are easy to "handle". But of course I am a woman...
I cant offer ANY solid advice. Just wasting your time on a Thursday monring... xxx K
I've got the book, and I've just started to read it.
Yes my W is a complicated crazy ***** , and I'm not going to spent too much time trying to figure her out on my own, I'll read the book and see if that helps.
On a lighter note I can tick another thing off my 2009 list, D7 can now ride a bike.
Congrats on D7! Concentrate on the important stuff. I am sure she will remember her old man teaching her how to ride a bike for a long time...just like I remember my dad.
By the way, on K's advice, I also ordered "the book".
It better be good because i am expecting it to solve my relationship issues as well as my work related issues....and most importantly, I will become a superior man in bed (without any use of drugs of any kind)....apparently!!!!
