You say I have given approval to her to continue the EA?
She gave me no choice. She told me that that friendship is important to her. I can't make those decisions for her. I am hoping that she takes it upon herself to end the Emotional Affair when she realizes that it is unhealthy to continue. She is not committed to saving our marriage right now so it is not the right time for me to corner her, don't you think?
I am re-reading the infidelity chapter in Divorce Remedy.
I guess I am at the point now where I am dealing with a spouse having an affair. Though she has cut off the romantic part of the affair, she is still emotionally attached and is trying to be "just friends". I don't think she knows how impossible that is, so I am trying to just live my life without freaking out on her. I think I need to show I can live without her or making demands for her emotional attention before she can commit to doing her part.
When she does commit, she will realize that her friendship with the OM is destructive to all 3 of us and she will let go of him.
Until then, I am looking for suggestions to speed up her realization process.
Should I ignore the anniversary?
PS
I can't seem to find a Therapist in Massachusetts that is dedicated to marriages!
