Change is hard, especially when it feels like it's taking us in directions we never intended, but that has to be weighed with opportunity. Rather than casting this in the light of a job - what's the salary, what are the benefits - ask yourself if this is an opportunity. Like DB, will this bring you closer or take you further from your goal?
I always thought decisions were easy. It's just choosing to make them that's hard.
I used to be about as small town as you could get, and truth be told I miss that atmosphere a lot. But metro areas are also great. What you might consider is going there for a weekend with an eye towards pretending like you're living there.
Even if you accept the job and move, nothing will be set in stone - for you, for H, for D14. You'll still have the same choices a month after moving that you have right now, so don't see this as closing doors. If any doors get closed, it's the one on your fear of leaving.
