Ah, Pup--what if you do tell the church--and they promote him to a place of leadership in spite of knowing he's actively and willingly committing adultery and throwing his family under the bus?
Then I would find a new church. Seriously.
It's not my church, it's his. Clearly, I wouldn't go there.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012