Mr. Lost Sort of ironic you are in the particular pickel. I told my husband last night I am moving out. After he called the ex-OW from his EA while he was staying at our home for the first time, I had enough. This happened Tuesday night, after our house was broken into. I told him the level of disrespect involved in doing that, (calling her) is beyond my comprehension. Despite everything since this all started my ass and my heart have been exactly where they were supposed to be. I have not done anything to be disrespectful to him. That was the final straw. He stayed at the house again last night. I slept in the guest room. After he put the baby to bed, he actually tried to initiate sex. I nicely told him "No way. Not after last night's shennanigan's." And he backed off and was actually very nice, even understanding. My H has never been one to actually say he's sorry. Instead he would just act a particular way. And last night, he was acting that particular way. So I do appreciate that. Unfortunately, I don't really know what he might be sorry for, there are so many options. So this evening will be the last night I'm in the house, then I'm going to move in with a friend. On Sunday my S will join me there because it's H's weekend with him. It sucks, but I think it's time for him to see what it is he's asked for....what he's put into motion. I don't think he really thought about all of this. When I told him I was moving out, he was NOT happy. He even said "This is not the best thing for S." I looke at him and said "Well, if we are going to go down that road, what do you think the impact of a divorce is going to do to him?" H left it alone. For me, this is the ABSOLUTE LAST RESORT. If this doesn't show him how crappy life is going to be and he's happy, then I have my answer. I hope hope hope he misses us and see just how much this is going to change our lives for the absolute worse...but we'll have to wait and see. So that's my decision, Mr. Lost, I'm not sure what your decision should be. But I sort of lean toward, if you can move out, do it. Let her see what life is like without you. She already think she knows what it's like with you. Maybe you could move out and set up a schedule with her where you have family night out and then family night at home each week. That way there are planned times to be together and you can really gear up for, look your best, and just knock her socks off. And also maybe set up a time where the two of you talk about "adult things" with out the kids and be in a hurry to get out of there, like you have another date. Maybe you could act like you were the one who wanted to leave and you're worried about her and her well being, turn the tables. Make her think. Make her wonder. Make her postpone all of this for as long as possible. I also think she really doesn't want to move forward with this. I think on some level she knows what you know: Her unhappiness is not you, you're just getting blamed for it.
