.......but once an affair is 6 months or more entrenched, I would generally NOT advocate exposure anymore.
Puppy, I agree with much of what you have said, however I disagree with this. Each sitch is different, and often after the first few heady months the shine wears off the A and then that can sometimes be a good time to expose. Often the OP at the point is starting to pressure the WAS to make something more permanent and the WAS is just begining to see exactly what an awful mess they have gotten themselves into.
In my sitch, as you may well remember, my H's A had been going on for 18 months, and I found exposure to be the right way for me.
