I have also always had trouble dealing with my WAW when I can tell she is upset, but doesn't want me to comfort her. I agree that it is easy for the H to read that as rejection - I always did (and in many ways still do).
Good luck.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
