I'm just wondering, insteading of demanding to be involved in his FB activity (which isn't working because he is digging his heals in) is there some way of integrating yourself so in the end he *wants* to add you as a friend. He has got used to keeping it a secret and hiding it. I wonder if this is a plac e to set some goals? Michelle writes a whole chapter in DR on online activity. This may be a longer route than sudden disclosure but if you want this it may be the route you have to take. Just my thoughts...
I agree with the others, it doesn't sound like he wants a permanent separation. It sounds like he has fallen into bad habits and ways of thinking. I love what T highlighted. So telling.
