Yes, you're right in many sense of what you're saying but I just did not know how to deal with it at that point of time and I don't think I was blind.
She has said to me a few times that she hates me and does not have any more love for me anymore, I just do not have concrete evidence that she has a emotional "affair" with this OM. It may be one-sided, I'm not sure if it is mutual though becos he seems to be leaving us alone since I confronted him for "leading" her on and "encouraging" by NOT setting appropriate boundaries.
What should I do now?? Should I try to confront them again, should I try to gather more concrete evidence to prove them right. I can only work on myself, I know this guy's marriage is also struggling but not to our extent though.
thank you for your suggestions and generous time. will keep in touch.
