My DH's affair was outed--his family, my family, D17 found out, and many of our joint friends who are all in support of reconciliation, if for no other reason than for the kids. DH, as of August was still in communication with her and flew to see her right before he left on deployment, but he hid it from everyone, including his parents. I have no idea if the A is continuing at this point, but am living with the assumption that it is.
I handled some things very wrong--while I outed him, I was still allowing cake-eating and doing everything else against DB--crying, begging, pleading, telling him to think about the kids. With him being military, there are substantial financial risks involved in going to his command--that is the only thing that has kept me from it.
I do not wish I had not outed him, I just wish I had done it from a position of strength instead of the weak, crying woman I was at that time.
Blessings, grace, and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
