I told her I am moving to another city in 2 months because work is better there. She has 2 months to make a commitment to save the marriage or not.
In the mean time I want to choose the best course of action to win her over.
I am being very calm, though I want to do very drastic things. I told her what she does in this time is her business and I won't ask however it is clear what I will be hurt by.
I can not force her to end the EA part of this so I must do something else to help.