I like you just about as much as anyone can like someone without having actually met; I hope you know that. I know my post probably really sunk deep, and like Cathy, I am so sorry if I have increased your pain and sorrow.
My post, like Cathy's, was an emotional reaction to what you had written, and I hate to see anyone in as much pain as you obviously are. I'm sure your wife is a really nice person on certain levels... my post was not to shoot her down or make you feel defensive on her behalf. I just want to see your pain end, and sometimes, we have to stand up for ourselves in order for that to happen.
Again, my apologies, and I ditto everything Cathy said.
