Today was quieter and calmer. My H had been making significant progress on his issues and I started to get hopeful and allowed more contact for the past week. Yesterday he tells me that he is taking his ring off because he doesn't "feel" married right now. Says he will put it on when I start working on the M. I just walked away when he started. I set a limit with him on this - when the ring comes off we aren't talking about anything. Today I noticed he had it on but didn't say anything to me. H acts out frequently and I have had to set some very firm limits. Current goal - he has to work on staying sober, and then any R talk will be with a MC. He started AA two weeks ago, IC last week and suddenly thinks he is ready.???? So I plan to work on the M with him once he holds up his end. Longest sobriety has been 6 weeks. He is very immature and self centered - like many people in my life - a fact that has been pointed out by several. So, my goal for me has been to take care of me - a hard task but someone has to do it- still trying to figure out what that means.
