Can't advise you about what is best - my best guess from your tone is that you should stay in the home, work on DBing, give her emotional space there. Detach as much as possible, let her figure her stuff out. You focus on the kids and at least one change on yourself (you want believable right?) Don't "fix" things for her - learn to listen and help her deal with outcomes not process.
Still sounds to me from a woman's pt of view that your W doesn't know what she wants - she only sees what she doesn't want. You don't have to move out in order for her to see it- you just have to get out of the way. If you have specific ex you need help in negotiating or detaching, ask.
By the way, you sound much better and so be proud of yourself for the progress so far. It's working - keep it going.
