I know what you mean about wanting more. My H and I are doing reallllly good...I mean, realllly good. But, something can happen, and it makes me want more and makes me want changes in him, and the reminders of the past anger I had with him come to my head. I, too, have to remember patience. We are in it for the long haul, Hope. Marriage is not easy. The way your wife is is probably how she has been since she was married to you in some ways. Changes take time. Growing with the person you married can sometimes be a hard thing to do.
Let me give you an example. We were all together as a family at an indoor waterpark. We look for a spot to sit in the sitting/eating area. It was full. There was this one table with an almost empty pop and one little towel on a table with 4 chairs. We look around. No one there, so we plant ourselves there for eating our lunch. My H goes to the car to get the food and as I sit there with my son, a man and a girlfriend comes up and says that we are in their seats. I talk to him and said that it looked like it was free because no one was here. He said he "saved it" while he was off watersliding. I tried to explain that we were trying to eat and that it was an eating place and that if he wanted to have a place to sit there were plenty of them by the waterslides, etc. Anyway, he starts grabbing our stuff and throwing them on the floor. I told him he was rude and I got our stuff and left. I told my H and he did NOTHING. THis is where everything came up.....How I felt like he doesn't really know me, love me, or protect me, etc. and so forth. Anyway, all of the things I know are not true, but this one mistake and his lack of acting made me believe all of these bad things about him. Just because someone doesn't act the way we want them to, or the way they should, doesn't mean they don't love us. We talked later, he understood my side, and I understood his, and we worked it out. BUt, I was really mad and hurt and couldn't understand how he could do that if he really loved me....you get my drift.
