Retrouvaille saved me - AN #3

[AnotherNightmare]

My second thread is locked, and this is a good opportunity to start a new thread and new part of my life.

A short recap of what happened since the bomb:

My W dropped the bomb on Nov 11 telling me that she wanted a D and that she wanted to move back to Germany with the kids. She had an EA with OM in Germany, which explains why she wanted to go back to Germany.

After weeks of no progress, I finally asked her to go to Retrouvaille with me. The weekend was scheduled for Feb 13-15 and included V-day. After a couple of days of thinking, she decided to give it/us/me another chance, even though she knew she had to end the EA for us to go there. She did end it sometime between X-mas and New Year's. She told me that she joined me for the weekend to improve our R, not to save our M. She did not want an ugly divorce. All she wanted was to protect the kids and get a friendly co-parenting agreement with me.

During the weeks leading up to the Retrouvaille weekend, we made little to no progress. We treated each other in a friendly and civil way, but we had no trust for each other. We hardly talked, and fortunately I was away from home 4 days every week.

So we finally went to Retrouvaille last weekend (more in my next post), and a miracle happened. Retrouvaille saved me, I went through changes that I never thought possible and that I had denied myself for many, many years. We now have a very realistic chance to save our M.