I have been reading your thread. Sorry to hear you are not getting better quickly but hang in there. The only thing I know about Murphy is his law: anything that can go wrong will!
One book that I found helpful apart from the SSM is Resurrecting Sex by Dr David Scharch. It has some good chapters about how to change things even if your partner is not being helpful which seem relevent to you. I don't know if it was you who said you didn't think your W would like you reading these types of books but my tip is to put a paper jacket from another book over them. It's sneaky but you can sit right there reading it and they are none the wiser!
