This is a total sidebar, and I'll probably get blasted for this, but why is it when a man is BUSTING HIS ASS to provide for the family, and working long hours, he is said to be "neglecting" his wife?
I wonder if she liked the income you were providing.
Not saying this doesn't happen, but I'm guessing that this is just a smokescreen 75% of the time.
OK, end of entirely-un-PC rant
It is largely a smokescreen. You have to have some excuse why you cheat. Being emotionaly neglected is as good an excuse as any.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
