Hans? A word to the wise, it's easier for folks to keep up with you and track the conversations with you if you have just one thread in one forum at a time.
Starting a thread here in "Infidelity" -- does that mean you suspect your W is being unfaithful? Because I don't gather that from your initial posts, either of them.
Nocode,
This one is on me, I suggested this forum, 1st because I know the good people in here and know how much it helped me, 2nd because the entire current situation is as a result of infidelity and I know that there have been some successful wayward spouses in this forum, 3rd depending on the interpretation of a marriage it is possible that some will agree dwarf's wife was ufaithful(I do not), so he is also dealing with emotions involving that on both sides.
Take care,
~Snow
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009