180 when your mistake was abandoning

[Helpers]

Thanks Puppy and Spellfire,

I am fairly certain that they only kissed once and she considers it a mistake. She did go out with him behind my back but I think that stopped in late Dec. when I confront her about it. She does not, however, consider emails, texting, or phone calls to him inappropriate. I have noticed a lessening of contact between them outside of work within the past two weeks.

As for the convo - she expressed that she thought our relationship was over. I got the ILYBINILWY speech. Over the next two days I convinced her to give it four more weeks. And I tried to change everything that she had a problem with in our relationship (not spending time with friends, me studying upstairs away from her, not doing enough chores - it was a laundry list). The original four weeks has now turned into 8. I've since been working on each complaint but haven't seen the corresponding effort or recognition on her part. She claims that I haven't been trying and I attempt to list all the things that are different now than 3 months ago.

I know that I need to "show" her instead of "tell" her about the changes but I'm not sure how to proceed with the impending decision about her own apartment. Do I go dark, or should I call and text her?