Quote: Sometimes I feel like the variant of the "tree in the forest" question I've heard: If a man says something in the forest, and there's no woman there to hear him, is he still wrong?
There once was a man who said - God, Must think it exceedingly odd, When he finds that this tree, Still continues to be, When there's no-one about in the Quad.
Well I am not saying you really have to believe in God (although I am pretty sure she exists ) but you have to believe in your own moral code. Your actions should be motivated by that rather than the reaction they will get from anyone else. It's normally better to be kind and accepting but sometimes it is more compassionate not to give someone what they ask for. For example your kids would become very spoiled and unable to function in the real world if you did not ever discipline them. In the same way it is not really fair to your partner to allow them to treat you in a selfish and irrational manner. But in order for them to behave better it is necessary for you to behave better. You can't just shout and scold them. Well this is the theory and it does work but it's pretty hard to put into practise sometimes. See me cave in after about half an hours sulking!
) but you have to believe in your own moral code. Your actions should be motivated by that rather than the reaction they will get from anyone else. It's normally better to be kind and accepting but sometimes it is more compassionate not to give someone what they ask for. For example your kids would become very spoiled and unable to function in the real world if you did not ever discipline them. In the same way it is not really fair to your partner to allow them to treat you in a selfish and irrational manner. But in order for them to behave better it is necessary for you to behave better. You can't just shout and scold them. Well this is the theory and it does work but it's pretty hard to put into practise sometimes. See me cave in after about half an hours sulking! 
