Do you have any idea how fricken hard it is every single night knowing that right now I am all Tawny has. Do you know how many times I sit and cry because I am fully aware that I cannot be everything my daughter needs.
My kids see their dad every week, they are with him physically, but they get all their emotional nourishment from me. S10's C told me that since stbx' mind is mush right now I'm all they have, I'm the reliable parent who will nurture them and give them all the love I can. But to make sure I recharged and also have a support system, to take care of myself.
My parents D when I was 10, I lived with my father, i saw my mom 2x a year, on my bday and on summer vacations. My father was never one to give affection, his love language was to work his tail off, a single father of 3 at the time. I did miss my mom but I got used to how things had to be. I think your d has an awesome dad who understand about emotional needs-- ok, so you can't talk about nails and clothes with her, but you give her what matters most: your love and time, which is what she really needs. Don't you sell yourself short.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
