See even after almost 7 mths of divorce, I still have to deal with his stuff!! It isn't going to end, I know that. He just thinks everything should be nice and tidy since we aren't married anymore. He thinks communication should be a breeze!
kat
Yep, you know Mike thinks that everything is going to be perfect after the D too. WTH? And if not, I guess they blame us. They don't want to look at anything that might possible be their fault????
Re: his comments on your parenting, my opinion is that it's so easy to criticize when you are parenting 1/2 a day or one day a week!!! If the situation was reversed, and he was parenting 6 days a week, do you think he would be the perfect dad? Let's face it he messes up the one day or whatever he has them (and I'm re: to the skank being invited to family dinner)! And I have a hard time with 2 kids, you have four!!! Sometimes I think it would be good for them to have the majority of parenting, like switch roles with us, and let them see how hard it is! I think our H's would last what a week max if that! But the truth is your X doesn't want to do the majority of the parenting, b/c he hasn't stepped up to that, and I think deep down inside he knows that you are the better parent!!!
I also think sometimes the venting they do is their way of relieving stress or guilt they have. Like I think H got the nasty letter from my L monday so then he vents about my D9's glasses. He can't really say anything about the fact he threatened me, but he feels he can witch about the glasses, even though it's really the L he's upset about. So I bet your X is having some stress over something and then takes it out on you too.
Yeah, your H is a train wreck. But I think kids can realize that and maybe use him as a role model of how not to be. I mean my dad was a great guy but had a few #s, and I try to not do those things and just kind of copy the good stuff. Your kids are smart enough to do that too. They'll realize you're the positive role model in their life. Karen
