I need you guys more than ever. Situation has changed dramaticaly since yesterday. Last night around midnight I heard a door bell and guess who was there? With her stuff? W was remorseful and asked me if I still wanted her back? After slight hesitation I said yes. Told her that appreciated this step, glad to see her back but it was late and said we should go to sleep and have "a talk" tomorrow. (today). Since now she's bringing the rest of her stuff back I have a moment to type few words.
Any suggestions regarding this BIG TALK?
Yes. Tell her YOU'RE NOT READY TO HAVE IT YET. Tell her you're glad to see her, to get some rest, and just "be" and that you want to talk to her tomorrow sometime.
That:
a) Puts YOU in charge of the agenda; and
b) Gives you time to let us help you with a Plan.
I'm glad she's back. You're definitely on the right track with your list of boundaries.
