Please, don't EVER feel silly for giving heart-felt advice. At least not with me. I appreciate it more than you ever know.
As for the strip-tease...well....whew. I have the perfect song in mind...but...wow. I do community theater, so one wouldn't think that this kind of thing would be so difficult...but I swear it would be easier for me to do it for an audience of 100 people who I didn't know, than for the one man I love with all my heart. Go figure. I will ponder this idea, though, make no mistake. If I ever do it, you'll be the first one I tell.
As for the Cloudnine post, this kind of approach has to become a way of life for you. It doesn't have to take several months...I think with Sooner it took about four weeks...and I think you've been able to wait that long before. The trick is to be able to repeat step one. It is my guess that repeating step one won't take as long as the first time around, but Sooner is still in the midst of the experiement, so we just all have to tune in and see what happens. Conversely, I don't think his third effort will take half as long as his second...then so on and so forth. But again, we'll all have to wait and see. But in the meantime, at least, he has come up with some really great stuff to keep himself busy, enjoy his life, and have some fun, all on his own terms.
It isn't something you try for awhile and then put aside. It's almost like you are trading places with your wife...she becomes the giver and you become the taker. Sometimes accepting graciously what other have to offer is the greatest gift we can give in return.
You can do this. I know you know how you want things to be, and golly, no one faults you for it...but there are many roads to the same city...you just keep going back to the one you are comfortable with...the most direct route...and you keep running into all those orange barrels. Get off the road, guy. Sometimes the back way is a bit slower, but you trade quickness for a view, hm?
Maybe you should talk with Sooner and see, guy to guy, how he thinks his approach is working. It may be too soon for him to tell yet, but I think he might be able to offer you some real valuable insights that I as a woman just can't articulate.
If nothing else, it gives you the opp. to be discuss an alternative route (since men seem to be so bad a taking directions....hee, hee).
