Divorce looming #4

[K4D]

Took my W to lunch today where we discussed the divorce. I told her I wanted primary residence for the kids. She said no. I basically said she has been an unfit mother this past year and the only reason she wants to move as far up north as she does is because that is where OM lives. I didn't think about saying afterwards that she also is always fixated on OM at all times and no longer focus'd on the kids. Even when she is out doing something with the kids she is texting him. And after the kids birthday parties she was telling him how annoyed she was and just ready to be done. Not comments from a mother who is that into her kids anymore. She always cannot wait to get away and be with him. How does this make her a fit mother?

Wooa, this made her fuming mad. She said the schools are better and her best friend lives there. I said I could believe that if OM didn't live there. She decided she will go ahead and have me served and get an attorney.

I told her if she wants to move closer inland towards Dallas then I can let the primary residence thing go. She said she will think about it. I said bring home the agreement tonite and lets agree on a closer better location limit. She said she might be willing to do that.

I think I might have one that battle. We'll see.

I reminded her on the drive back to work that I still struggle with not telling OM's W as she has every right to know what her husband has been doing. W didn't say anything. I just wanted to keep the fear in her and OM. I know she will tell him.

I wonder if they are still meeting for lunch so she can give him oral in his jeep infront of the restaurant. She had been doing that.

Honestly, I don't want to tell her for the primary reason that I don't want his kids having to go through what mine are. On top of that, if I do tell her, then my W ends up with him which she actually wants. I don't want that either. I'll just keep the fear factor up for a while.

She told me she wants me out of my room tonite, which used to be our room and that she wants her bed. I said that bed is community property. She said its hers. I said ok, go ahead and move the bed in from her room and she can move the one in my room out into her room. She got mad and said she is sleeping in my room tonite. I said ok. I am to. She is certainly welcomed to sleep in there with me. This really ticked her off.

Oh, and she said that I had agreed to primary residence and now changed my mind again. I said that was before this new information came out about her sleeping with OM. She said a few indiscrepancies doesn't make her an unfit mother. Is that all it was, just a few indiscrepancies? Didn't realize it was so minor. Whatever.

I'm not taking her crap anymore. I am finally standing up for myself. She can throw all the threats she wants at me. But they aren't phasing me anymore. She told me we are definitely over and she can't stand the sight of me and don't bring her to lunch anymore. I said I thought we were going to discuss the D stuff which we did. She is just mad because I didn't cave on my new demands. She may not like me and she may not even respect me right now, but she knows that I am not walking off with my tail between my legs anymore.

At this point, DBing is dead. She hates me. Wants me to have no part of her life except through the kids.

So she wants me out by Monday. Not until Monday though because she still wants her hotel this weekend. I may leave Friday or Saturday just to inconveniance her. I haven't decided.

Last night she told me it will be YEARS/DECADES before she can consider anything with me again. That pretty much writes off this M for now.

Yet, I still want to fix things. Strange isn't it? Even after all of this.

Kevin