sisterhood of the traveling pants #16

[Virtually_Handsome]

(((((BG)))))

What he says or does right now isn't really important. He could well change his mind, or not.

What is important is that you take care of you, physically and mentally! I think that the less you have to deal with him, the better, for the time being. You don't need that right now. Figure out what you need, and if he has it, liek a converter box, you might ask him for it. Even better would be to figure out other ways of taking care of things.

Start planning how to get along without him. Not because it is what you want, but so that you know that you can. From there, you can see where things go.

Hang in there!

[mishka422]

((((((((BG)))))))))))

Sweetie, I'm so sorry he is dragging you through all of this. It's such a horribly painful experience and you have it doubly hard because of your illness. You will make it through this with the Grace of God and the help of your friends.

I wish I could be there to give you big hugs in RL. Call a nearby friend. Get someone there to help you, please. Where are your kids?

[Babygirl]

we hadnt gotten boxes yet. didnt really need it them right away as we had the new tv. today really sucks, as i am miserable from my test this morning, and i am alone.
D16 stayed with a friend last nite, probably will tonite too. we will drive eachother crazy with no tv lol and since the house is a disastor, my younger 2 got back yesterday from florida, I called my ex and told him i had that test today, and will have them stay there tonite.
just stuck out here, evry one in RL has a life of thier own.

[mishka422]

Keep calling friends until you find one that can escape their life today. Call friends from church BG. Please! You need someone there with you.

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

{{{{{BG}}}}

You know if I could, I would be on the next plane to KS. Mish is right--call the church. I will guarantee someone would find a way to come out to the house to help you. Your focus has to be on YOU right now. You cannot fix him, only he and God can do that. Have faith, my friend, step out in faith and let God's love guide you through this valley.

SMW

[Babygirl]

i know you would sis i know you would, and man i wish you really could be here right now.

i called pastor and left a message

[kelaaron]

You were supposed to call me. Are you hurting from the test or cuz he's gone or both. Jeff is right and now you have heard it from at least two places. You have to take care of you for a while.

I'll keep my op of him to private time with you cuz it is just too much for on here. You know I too would be there if I could my friend. I'm sorry I shared your info but I figured since you has sort of spilled the beans. We all love you you know.

[Babygirl]

kel, sorry off and on, oh well i talked to you lol you know already. ok high school boys gonna be here in a few to get my wood in, let my phone charge and i will call you back.

oh and drs are stupid people. jmo!

[sandi2]

Hey, just thought of a funny....sort of. We all have been so worried about you making out by yourself and as I recall, it was the H that didn't know how to get along by himself. Or was that the babysitting thing? Anyway, I bet truth be told, he will be lost without you in more ways than one, but the rascal deserves to be. Guess you can tell I'm still ticked at him, huh?

I don't know what kind of test you had to have done, but I have had to watch my daughter take horrible ones and yes, you begin to think nobody in the hospital knows what they are doing some days. No offense to anyone in our DB board community. But it is hard to take those things or to watch a loved one go through painful ones. My daughter has suffered so much pain in her life and she is so tiny, it just kills my soul to see her have to endure what she does. I know your family feels the same about you, but you know what babygirl? I fail to tell my daughter what I am telling you about my feeling toward her, so your family probably does the same thing and forget to tell you their feelings. I'm sure there are times you feel that nobody understands (and probably don't) or nobody cares (but they do). We family members, and even friends, forget--when it happens so often--to express our constant concern toward our loved ones. I don't have what you do, but I know the frustation of feeling like you are all alone and nobody realizes what it is like. None of us do until we have worn the shoes, right? BTW, it was very unselfish of you to have your D to spend the night with friends since there was no TV. You probably could have had her wait on you if nothing else......but like you said....no TV may mean a killing (lol). Been there a few times!

I know that Lupus and Fibromyalgia are sort of in the same family, but what I have is nothing compared to what you have, however, I'm sure all the emotional stress is agravating the physical part right now. I hope all these posts are letting you know how much we are thinking about you and wishing we could do something for you.

Hope you can get some relief tonight and get some much needed rest.

Love,
Sandi

[Tawnya]

{{{Babygirl}}} how are you this evening???

Tawnya