Johanna, VAnot, Corri et als,

Sorry if I always come across pegging all women as LD, I am aware that there are some of you unfortunate HD ladies out there that are suffering a similar "permanent erection syndrome". I must admit that most of the women I have known (not including past lovers) have tended to be on the lower end compared to their husbands. Most of the guys I know complain about their wives losing interest after a few years or having kids. This is where my generalization comes from and also I write from my perspective without taking others into account. Hope I haven't offended any of you lovely ladies.

My doctor put me on Paxil and said it would take a few weeks, but psychologically I already feel better knowing that I am getting help, that someone is on my side helping me deal with this. That alone is giving me some peace. I have also made some decisions (thanks in part to Corri's foot smacking my arse) to really seek contentment in spite of the sh*t that I have to deal with.

No doubt I will get beaten to my knees many times again but at least I'm able to try right now. I'm thinking that maybe not being so fearful of losing my marriage (if that ever happens) may actually allow me to hang on to it better. Not sure if that makes sense.

Another thing that is giving me some hope is that our doctor sympathized with my frustration and the disfunction that is occurring in our sex life. He said he would discreetly check into my wife's lack of interest on her next visit and offer some help if she accepts it. There may yet be miracles out there.

AchingMan